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Parenting Behavior Understanding the 4 Common Parenting Styles

Posted by Kelly Friedl on
Parenting Behavior Understanding the 4 Common Parenting Styles

Past discussions about the trending 5 love languages are now on auto-pause because you just brought a new baby and realized the hospital forgot to include the parenting manual! There’s no one-size-fits all guidebook to parenting, but understanding the four classic parenting styles can help you become more intentional about how you interact with your child. And your partner.

The 4 Parenting Styles: Your Quick Reference Guide

Authoritative Parenting
Parenting motto: "I'll listen to you, but I'm still the parent."
Authoritative parenting focuses on warmth, responsiveness, and support, while also setting clear limits and expectations for children. Parents use reasoning and positive reinforcement to guide their children's behavior, fostering a strong, nurturing relationship. Kids who have authoritative parents often show higher levels of confidence, emotional regulation, and academic success. They also are more likely to express curiosity and friendliness towards others. 

Authoritarian Parenting
Parenting motto: "Because I said so."
Authoritarian parenting is characterized by high demands and expectations with little responsiveness or warmth. Parents in this style often use punishment and strict rules, expecting obedience without much explanation or discussion. Kids with authoritarian parents may follow rules well, but struggle with independent decision-making. They may also express higher levels of rebellion and less developed social skills. 

Permissive Parenting
Parenting motto: "I just want to be their friend."
Permissive parenting is responsive but undemanding, often described as indulgent or lenient. Permissive parents tend to be loving and avoid confrontation, allowing children more freedom and making few demands. Kids with permissive parents may struggle with limits and authority figures and often lack the ability to self-regulate. As children, they may have good self-esteem and can be highly creative, but as they become adults they may struggle to handle rejection or difficulties. 

Uninvolved Parenting
Parenting motto: "They'll figure it out."
Uninvolved parenting is also known as neglectful parenting, and is characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Uninvolved parents may be indifferent, dismissive, or emotionally distant, making few to no demands on their children. It can also occur out of necessity, such as during times of high stress or demands on the parents’ time. Kids of consistently uninvolved parents may develop independence and self-sufficiency, but often feel unsupported and might have low self-esteem. They can also be at risk for attaching to unhealthy role models later on in life. 


Finding The Right Balance For Your Family...
Research suggests that a primarily authoritative approach—providing both warmth and consistent boundaries—offers children the best foundation. But perfect consistency isn't realistic or necessary. And many times each partner can vary with their style and behavior. What matters more is self-awareness about our patterns and making intentional choices when possible. And remember, recognizing these different styles in your parenting isn't about judgment. It's about understanding yourself better (and your partner) so you can show up as the parents you want to be.

 

 

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